Why being a Bitch is back...

She stole your boyfriend. She chatted shit about you behind your back. She pretended to be your friend because she wanted something in return. Whether we admit it or not. One of the above has happened to us. We've encountered a girl just like this who we all know as 'The Bitch'. We refuse to speak her name, knowing that if we do we'll become overcome with anger and with the need to give her the time of day by talking to other people about your pure hatred for her. In an age where Girl Power seems like a thing of the past, something that ended with the dissolution of Spiceworld and with the increased interest in sex, being a Bitch seems to be only thing every woman has in common. Agree or disagree, every woman is seen as 'The Bitch' by someone or other - whether you stole their man or not. 

This is why I hate that word. I hate it so much because whenever its used in conversation - jokingly or not - it's diction dictates that its said with a real venom - a real spite. Say it to yourself. 'Bitch'. Try and say it a different way. Try again. Failing? So am I. I avoid it in every conversation I have.

Women don't see each other as a community anymore. It's a competition, and a fierce one at that. Hate is a constant, as is jealously, and rivalry. It will always be there so long as we continue to think of each other the way we do. 

One woman's stupid mistake can be the careering downfall of a friendship, pre-empting a long argument or war of words over Facebook or text. 

So why do we continue? It's because we aren't forgiving. We don't forget. We keep those grudges that we've held for years, we still remember why they are there and we can't let that go. If I was going to change one thing about women, it would be our Elephant memories. 

'The Bitch' isn't back. She never left. We're all 'The Bitch' to somebody anyways. We can accept that, but we certainly can't move on. I'm tired and I'm bored of being dragged into problems that aren't my own, being repeatedly accused of something that occurred years ago, being blamed for the breakdown of a friendship or relationship.  It needed to be said because we need to stick together, and with this constantly negative mindset, it's difficult to imagine, but I'll keep the faith. 

Jessie. X